Why I can't lose weight

“Why can’t I lose weight?” This is a false question. Everyone can lose weight. It’s very simple. There is only one step. Eat healthy food. So maybe one other step is to donate all of the unhealthy food in your house. See what that leaves you with. The real question is why can’t I make better food choices at the grocery store or restaurant?

What blocks us from making those good decisions and reach for the salad? We know better. Why buy the potato chips and cookies and Pepsi? We think we want it. Why do we want it? It will make us happy? At the cost of our health? We get so much pleasure from the taste buds that we are willing to give the rest of the body something toxic to fuel itself?

I need some affirmations for this. Like learning a spell at Hogwarts to cast, right? Like an incantation to invoke some change. To channel some energy. Affirmations are really fun when you get into them.

I feel fantastic when I make healthy food choices

I cherish the value of food for my body fuel, not the taste

I think better when I make good eating decisions

I will plan ahead for when I shop

I will plan ahead for healthy and tasty meals

What if the way we eat is based on our self-esteem? If we really loved ourselves, and believed in ourselves, why would we make such bad choices? Not just ‘bad’ but devastating. Look at the health issues of the people around you. How many of them eat whole foods, fresh foods, unprocessed foods? I know of four. And I only wish I was one of them. Because I’m not. So the question isn’t “Why can’t I lose weight?” and it isn’t “Why can’t I make constantly good healthy food choices?” It’s really “Why don’t I love myself enough?”. And that’s not a good question. Asking Why Not is only half the battle. There must a way to bridge the gap between understanding and taking action. The real question is “What can I do to eat better?” (affirmations, for starters)

I also see people who work hard and perform well and deal with stress at their job and have Starbucks coffee every morning (a Venti, or large) and they like to drink beer after work. Imagine what it would be like for them if they also drank more water and ate healthy.

I think there is a link though. I think people who eat right have a very healthy diet and very healthy self-love too. I think the more toxic garbage we eat, the less good fuel we give our brains to make better decisions next time. It’s a vicious cycle.

I guess I start with one healthy meal. Then try for one healthy day. Then try for one healthy week. Then see where that takes me. It’s isn’t easy, and it’s frustrating that it isn’t easy. Who doesn’t want some apple strudel?? However, who wants to be overweight and underperform? But that’s what we are saying, isn’t it? When we reach for that donut, or that Gatorade.

We will take that prescription pill for what ails us, but we won’t eat that radish. We look for a pill without looking for a change in diet. It makes no sense. Your body is expert at regulating itself, but it needs the right fuel. The right ingredients. I had the best soup ever, my lovely neighbor came over to make it in my kitchen a few days ago. The only unnatural thing in it was some chicken flavored cubes. She put in every vegetable I could think of. And some that I was not familiar with, here in the tropics. There was real chicken chunks (with the bone still in) and I think I counted fourteen vegetables. Fantastic stuff, and pretty simple with just some chopping to do. Here’s another affirmation: “It CAN be done!”

I want to feel the pure power of self-love. My gauge will be my meal planning success. If you love yourself, feed yourself well. Give your brain and body a boost.

So much in life is based on what we eat, this is what I’m beginning to see. We spend time and money and effort to cook unhealthy meals. We are sabotaged as we walk down the aisles at the grocery store, aren't we? So much salt and sugar added to everything, it’s insane. I say: stop the insanity. They are selling. I ain’t buying.

Who’s with me? I want to start a support group of people who are ready to love themselves and face our food addictions. What should I call it? Does it already exist? “Love Myself Anonymous” Or something like that. Let’s help each other help ourselves. Let’s change the world from the inside out.




I know I'm not the only one who thinks meals should be colorful and tasty. I found some memes.