I need more than a monologue

  This is something that I usually talk to with my closest friends, that's what they are there for, right? But right now I have a bad cold. At the moment talking is not on my list of favorite things for my throat. So I write. The problem is, I'm looking for insight and advice. Here is my quandary.
  Next month if all goes well, I'm going back to where I grew up. Victoria, British Columbia, in Canada. I want to show my husband where I grew up, and I want to see if I can revisit some old memories. Part of it is that my memory is like watching a complicated movie fifteen years ago that you watched while trying to tend to a two year old. You remember it was good, but not much else. You know there was a deeper plot, and it's worth watching again. I was walking across the road when I was six years old, and hit by a car. I'm jealous of people who can remember all kinds of clear details about their childhood. I'm not one of them. I was born and raised between Victoria and Sooke (a 45 minute drive away).
  I remember six places that we lived when I was growing up. My family built three of them, all or in part. The first house was where we lived when I had my accident. Another house of great significance was my Grandma Szpradowski's house in Victoria. She died in 1992, but my over all dilemma is what to do with whatever time there. I can see a few family members who still live on the island. I could visit the places where we lived, if I can get the address of the first house. I could go to the two places where my mother has stored her things over twenty years ago. These treasure troves include my old things from school, and any family tree information (and pictures!) from my Grandma Szpradowski.
  How do I choose? How do I begin to try and map out whatever time I have on the island? I'm not very close to family over there any more, but I want to be. I left Victoria when I was eighteen years old, in 1989. My last visit there was in 2002, fifteen years ago. I also have no idea how much time I will have to spend there, once I hop the ferry from Seattle.
See this map? Victoria and Sooke are on the bottom, across the water from Washington in the US.
I guess I have time to map out options. What to do if I only have one day? Or two. Or more? I have to plan now to get addresses and locate some cousins. I have this goal of reaching out to every family family member. Lucky for me there really aren't too many.
  How do I start my list? With a list of family members. A list of 6 addresses. A list of coastline where I spent a lot of time. How many hours are in each day? 24. I know. Rhetorical questions that I ask myself. What am I really expecting anyway? A good friend of mine is writing a short summary of her life, and she said: "Your history does not determine who you are." I agree. It shouldn't define me. But it's a part of who I am, isn't it? It can be valuable to know where you started, compared to where you are now, compared to where you want to end up? Both on a map, or in the mind. It's that whole journey thing, from who you were, to who you are, to what the mysterious beckoning future holds for you.
  Okay, I have a bad cold and I need to think about this whole thing some more. I either need more time on the island, or I need to do double the things in half the time. It's always good to work out priorities though. Wish me luck!